I Can't Believe She's Gone

It is with full-blown sadness that I mourn the passing of someone I've never met, talked to or, save for one, what looks like old, photo, seen.

I'm talking about Kathy Krajco.

I exchanged an email or two as comments on her website shortly before she died. I was looking forward to a continuing dialogue...and now...

One of the clearest, strongest, truest voices on this thing we call the web, is silent. I feel gypped (politically incorrect word). But mostly I feel profoundly sad.

Sadder than I have when other people I've known better, longer, heck, than when people I've actually known, have died!

Why?

If you haven't read her blog and main website in their entirety, digitally run now -- leave this mere shadow of her blog behind. You can also buy her book.

My God, people, this is a loss. This was a Good person. I just know it. You would to, if you read her stuff.

Did I always agree? No. And we went back and forth a bit. But you know what? Kathy Krajco was so smart in that common sense meets great intellect kind of way, that I simply could not argue with her. I could feel the honesty, integrity, the personal truth of her words over the electric picket fence, so to speak, to such a degree that I wound up thinking that, yup, in a way, in her way, she was right.

For Kathy, bad people were bad. She didn't give a hoot how they got that way, I think. (She was a former science teacher, by the way.) In her opinion, they chose their dark path, albeit often at a very young age, and then got locked in. Evil has its rewards. It is very often the easy way, a free ride, morally and emotionally: all take and no give. To Kathy, I guess, trying to put evil's causes under a microscope (looking at hormonal and genetic causes, etc.) felt too close to excusing it. She cared, first and foremost, about educating and helping the victims of abusers. To that end, she discussed the evildoer's methods and motives. But devoting brainpower to figuring out what made the bad bad -- as this blog is wont to do -- I bet she thought that was a major waste of time.

But still, she was supportive of my comments and this website, even linking to it, which was a great honor.

I felt I knew her.

I know I will miss her.